In my time as a Dominant, I often had the pleasure to help people with their productivity – it is amazing what some people can accomplish if you only give them the right tools for it.
I think we don’t do enough on that front but that’s another topic…
In my time I had the privilege to help 4 of my Submissives through her Master’s degree and could help countless others with Job performance or finding a new Job.
I’m still very proud of every Submissive!
[alert type=”warning” icon-size=”big”]Disclaimer:
I don’t want to suggest here in any way that I had knowledge in my Submissives respected fields! Some Areas were easier to understand than others but the academic / work achievement was all theirs.[/alert]
So what can a Dominant provide for productivity? – Most new Submissives see the BDSM Relationship more as a distraction from work but come years later back to tell me how great that time was and that they miss it.
This comes down to some very basic reasons…
People are Lazy
I don’t mean that in a bad way… but we all work most of the time only if we have to. I see this often with myself – it is not like I don’t want to work but instead of doing the work I am supposed to I like to write Books or Blog posts.
Its similar with other people as well if you have free range what you want to do, you tend to do the stuff that is the most fun for you or that you feel fits best to your mood.
Different opinions breed different Ideas
I touched on this already in another Blog post about adversarial conversations.
If you have more then just your own voice to make decisions for yourself you will often make better decisions because you thought everything through with somebody else.
You are more productive when you get supervised
This is just a well tested and peer-reviewed phenomenon that social pressure and our motivation are not a disappointment to other people is a big motivator. It increases our need for approval and we are willing to do more for that approval.
So how can you as a Dominant help your Submissive best?
Make Lists
The Submissive mindset LOVE lists
Structure work in Lists and see how they thrive on completing them – sometimes because they have to but more than that just to get the feeling of accomplishing their goal.
You can incentivize them with little rewards and punishments…
Be a devil’s advocate
It’s a myth that the best ideas come from like-minded people – one of the best ways to get good ideas and motivate somebody is to antagonize them so they put extra work and effort in their project… this is only for the people that can actually live with that sort of thing in the end…
Give Structure
Most of the time people just need to sit down and make a plan they can follow – you as the Dominant in the relationship can provide exactly that. You can make the plan, weight the priorities and make sure everything is in order.
You also can supervise the progress and make your submissive aware when she is behind on something or when she has to refocus her efforts. This is extremely helpful and useful.
Submissive [KO] was a Student and had a big problem with work ethic. She would procrastinate till the end of each deadline, get extensions and then still procrastinate…
I would give her some guidelines and I would shorten her deadlines so she has a better time management. I would also give her orgasms in play when she was on track an deny her when she wasn’t. – This duality increased her motivation and made her very sufficient in her semester.
Also with [JP] I did some of these things, ordered her life and what she had to do. She was always able to stay on track but she also planned to do a lot less in the time she had.
We talked about her goals and made the plans together – We created her to do lists, made deadlines that were reachable but challenging and even wrote her whole master thesis in a week that was heavily BDSM influenced with restrictions and voice/video calls.
And of course [C] has lists where we build our goals in and then see to it that she is doing them, we also have certain rules that make sure certain work is done on time.
My beloved [C] already learned about a lot of topics and skills this way that help her in the day to day life and that gets her on the right track if things slow down.
